True divine love is a spiritual and mental feeling...!!!

True divine love transcends mere physical attraction and is deeply rooted in spiritual and mental connection. While many people equate love with dating, physical intimacy, or sexual desire, such perceptions only skim the surface of its true essence. True love is far more profound and encompasses a holistic experience that involves the heart, mind, and soul.

At its core, true love is not confined to the labels of boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife. It extends beyond the boundaries of societal norms and physical relationships. True love is characterized by a deep-seated feeling that pervades every aspect of your being, making you yearn for the presence of another person in every moment of your life. It involves seeing the world through the lens of someone else's perspective and understanding their experiences on a profound level.

Moreover, true love is about finding peace and comfort in someone’s embrace, not just physically but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This kind of connection is built on a foundation of trust, respect, and empathy. It requires a genuine understanding and appreciation of each other's needs and emotions. In a relationship rooted in true love, both partners are attuned to each other's feelings, and they strive to nurture each other's emotional well-being.

The essence of true love is also reflected in the ability to connect on multiple levels. It’s not merely about sexual intimacy, but about feeling a deep, soulful connection that transcends physical attraction. This includes sharing dreams, aspirations, and vulnerabilities, and supporting each other through life's challenges. The emotional and spiritual closeness achieved in true love fosters a profound bond that goes beyond the superficial.

True divine love is also characterized by mutual growth and support. It encourages both partners to become the best versions of themselves, fostering personal development and self-awareness. This form of love is unconditional and resilient, capable of withstanding the trials and tribulations of life. It is not just a fleeting emotion but a lasting commitment that deepens over time.

It is important to recognize that true love requires effort and intention. It involves active listening, compassionate communication, and a willingness to understand and adapt to each other's needs. Both partners must be committed to nurturing the relationship and growing together as individuals and as a couple.

In essence, true love is a beautiful and transformative experience that enriches both partners' lives. It is about creating a profound connection that integrates the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions of your being. When you find such a love, you discover a deeper sense of fulfillment and joy that goes beyond the superficial aspects of romance.

May you be blessed with a love that is truly divine—a love that is deep, enduring, and all-encompassing.

1. Try to learn more about your partner

It is important that you learn more about your partner; Try to understand what makes your partner happy, what makes your partner angry, your partner's fears, your partner's dreams and goals, understand your partner's feelings and what your partner wants in a relationship. Never stop learning about your partner; You can understand your partner better only when you know more about them, and you should know that understanding is the foundation of a lasting relationship.

2. Forgive

If you cannot forgive your partner, you will not be able to have a lasting relationship with them. Learn to forgive, learn to let go of resentment towards your partner. Resentment will only bring unnecessary bitterness to your relationship.

3. Respect each other

Everyone wants to be respected, but most people find it difficult to respect others. You must respect your partner; Respect their opinions even when you don't agree with them, and respect them for the role they play in your life.

If that relationship is to last, respect is necessary.

4. Do not use offensive words

Sometimes, partners drain each other - trading insult after insult and insult after insult. Such partners have no clue what a relationship should look like and lasting relationships may elude them completely.

Even in your angry moments, respect your partner enough not to insult him.

 

5. Listen to each other

Listening is a skill and I even call it an art. If listening were so easy, there would be peace everywhere. People do listen to each other, but they don't listen to each other even in relationships.

When partners listen to each other, they communicate better and understand each other better.

6. Unity

is another word that should not be missing from your dictionary if you want to build a lasting relationship. Do things with your partner, have fun together - try to practice togetherness and your relationship will blossom.

7. Learn to say sorry and take responsibility for your actions

Always having the right attitude is another reason relationships don't last.

The second tip talks about forgiveness, but forgiveness is almost impossible when you can't ask for forgiveness or admit your mistake. Learn to apologize to your partner when you make a mistake, and try to take responsibility for your actions. A simple apology can save your relationship a lot of stress.

8. Encouragement

You should encourage your partner to be better and offer support when needed. It is important for partners to be there for each other, support each other and make each other better.

9. Show your love

Show your partner that you love them; It should be something you show, not something you say. Try to show this to your partner almost every day of the relationship in the little thoughtful things you do for them.

10. Don't remember the past

Stop reminding your partner of past mistakes; This will never help your relationship. 

 

ThichNaht Hanh, the Zen Buddhist master, has some interesting advice about what it means to truly let go. Many people mistake detachment or non-clinging to be a form of aloofness, or emotional disconnect from others, but as Hanh explains, truly letting go often means loving someone more than you have ever loved them before.

The Buddha taught that detachment, one of the disciplines on the Noble Path, also called ariyasaavaka, is not a physical act of withdrawal or even a form of austerity. Though the Buddha teaches of a “non-action which is an integral part of the Right Way,” if it is taken out of context it can give the impression that we should develop a lack of concern for others, and that we should live without truly feeling or expressing our emotions – cutting ourselves off from life.

These type of misinterpretations are sadly common, since there are not always direct translations from the Paali language into English.

This form of “detachment” is an erroneous understanding of the Buddha’s message. Master Hanh states that to truly let go we must learn to love more completely. Non-attachment only happens when our love for another extends beyond our own personal expectations of gain, or our anticipation of a specific, desired outcome.

Hanh describes four forms of complete detachment, which surprisingly, aren’t about holing yourself up in a cave and ignoring everyone who has broken your heart, or ignoring your lust or desire for a romantic interest. This is not detachment. Letting go, means diving in. For example:

Maitri (Not the Love You Know)

Hanh describes the importance of Maitri, not love as we normally understand in a Westernized use of the word. He states,

“The first aspect of true love is maitri (metta, in Pali), the intention and capacity to offer joy and happiness. To develop that capacity, we have to practice looking and listening deeply so that we know what to do and what not to do to make others happy. If you offer your beloved something she does not need, that is not maitri. You have to see her real situation or what you offer might bring her unhappiness.”

In other words, your detachment may come in accepting that certain things you would normally do to make another person feel loved and appreciated may not be what the person you are actively loving now, needs. Instead of forcing that behavior on another person, with an egoic intent to “please” them, you simply detach from that need in yourself, and truly observe what makes another person feel comfortable, safe, and happy.

Hanh further explains,

“We have to use language more carefully. “Love” is a beautiful word; we have to restore its meaning. The word “maitri” has roots in the word mitra which means friend. In Buddhism, the primary meaning of love is friendship.”

Karuna (Compassion)

The next form of true detachment is compassion. When we let go, we don’t stop offering a compassionate touch, word, or deed to help someone who is in pain. We also don’t expect to take their hurt or pain away. Compassion contains deep concern, though. It is not aloofness It is not isolation from others.

The Buddha smiles because he understands why pain and suffering exist, and because he also knows how to transform it. You become more deeply involved in life when you become detached form the outcome, but this does not mean you don’t participate fully – even in others’ pain.

Gratitude and Joy

In truly letting go you practice gratitude. Mudita, or joy arises when we are overcome with gratitude for all that we have, such that we no longer cling to some other longed-for result. The Buddha’s definition of joy is more like “Unselfish joy.” It means that we don’t only find happiness when something good happens to us, but when others find happiness.

If you’ve ever had to say goodbye to a love or friend so that they could continue on their life’s path – one that may not have continued to intertwine with your own – you may have felt pain when they found someone new to love, or made a new friend that seemed to take your place. This is not true detachment. Joy arises when you find happiness even when others find joy – and it has little or nothing to do with you.

Upeksha (Equanimity)

Master Hanh describes the final quality of true love which sheds inordinate light on the true process of letting go.

He states,

“The fourth element of true love is upeksha, which means equanimity, non-attachment, nondiscrimination, even-mindedness, or letting go. Upa means “over,” and iksha means “to look.” You climb the mountain to be able to look over the whole situation, not bound by one side or the other. If your love has attachment, discrimination, prejudice, or clinging in it, it is not true love.

People who do not understand Buddhism sometimes think upeksha means indifference, but true equanimity is neither cold nor indifferent. If you have more than one child, they are all your children. Upeksha does not mean that you don’t love. You love in a way that all your children receive your love, without discrimination.”

Hanh explains that without this quality our love tends to become possessive – a stomping ground of the ego. We try to put our beloved in our pocket and carry them with us, when they are more like the wind, or a butterfly, or a stream, needing to move and flow, or risk dying. This is not love, this is destruction.

For love to be true love, it must have elements of compassion, joy, and equanimity – and this is truly letting go.

The Art of Letting Go is Artless

The real secret is that letting go is not an art, it is an allowing, a being. A non-attached relationship is healthy, strong and filled with effortless love, kindness and compassion. It is completely selfless because your sense of ‘self’ is no longer asserted in every situation. If you want to truly let go, you’ve got to love more, not less. This is the most common misunderstanding about this priceless teaching of the Buddha.

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Who are the parents? When see the sun shine flower bud are

blooming. Parents are like that. They give new life to us as a valuable gift.

There are so many lectures in lord Buddha’s philosophy about that. Lord

Buddha has explain many ways how considerate to parents.

•  We can treat to them visit our parents. (ahuneiya)
•  We can treat to them when they come our home as acquired. (Pahuneiya)
• Donation to parents. (Dakkhineiya)
• Worshiping. (Anjalikaraniya)

As well as there is the ‘sigalowada sutta’ so many things about

treating to the parents. It says our duties for parents. They are

1. Feeding

2. Searching their works and doing them.

3. Protecting traditional customs.

4. Protect dowries.

5. Give merits after their death.

Further one day a god asked a question from lord Buddha said

‘Mangala sutta’. It’s explain that treating to parents are good auspicious.

In ‘wasala sutta’ also give good ideas about treating parents.

People those who are not treating parents they called that out-cast people.

According to that we can understand Lord Buddha’s philosopy is described

about importance of parents.

In the present society we can see big gap between parents and

children. The main reason for it is effect of science and technology. All the

people get in prisonors 0f modern technology. Therefore we can see huge

increase of decline of good qualities. Specially the situation of parent’s

background. Because of them now we can see Elder’s homes in everywhere. In

small times parents treat their children to every moments for giving education

and many facilities. After children grow well and get good jobs and start new

life with marriage, they neglect their parents. The children see lots of dreams

without parents. So parents life getting bad day by day with tears.

For that we can change the world with learns of Lord budhdha. He

teaches us to about the ‘Karmaya’ and we can enlightenment it very well. Then

we can build good bond and affection with our parents. It may be good wishes

for our lives as the children.

Writing by:  sachethana marasinghe

 

The birth to death there are several steps in our life. What’s that

child hood, teenage season, adult duration, old season etc. It is call the

life cycle. In this life cycle there are many situations. We get start

education in our child hood. It is spending under our parents. But when

we came our teenage season we get in adults. Then we befall do the

jobs, befall the indeed about society. Specially we befall come our

second life. It is the marriage life.

If be success the marriage life not only be good both of husband or

wife. But also may be good both of them. In the lord Buddha’s

philosophy there are many lecturers about success marriage life. Our

lord Buddha said how is couple spend life in trusty. The most important

module of society is the family. As well as husband and wife are main

members in this family. If live trusty husband and wife, we can see

many successful results. They are

•  Grow the peace and happiness in the family.
•  Be good children’s mental health.
•  Lower the fight and fracas.
•  Be an exemplary person in society.
•  According to Buddhism philosophy after death be born in the

heaven.

There are many important points in the ‘sigalowada sutta’ about

how spend a successful marriage life. Thereof our lord Buddha

explain two points. They are

•  Duties from husband to wife.
•  Duties from wife to husband.

There are five duties perform from husband to wife.

1. Respect.

2. Not to abasement.

3. Not to resort other women.

4. Devolution the home responsibilities.

5. Supply the conditions own wife.

As well as there are five duties perform also wife to husband.

1. Organize the home doings in best.

2. Treat in best to associative persons.

3. Not to resort other men.

4. Protect earned fortune.

5. Adeptness and Quickly every doings.

However in the present situation we get see many marriage

affairs are unsuccessfully. Bit by bit increase divorce cases. As

well as although they live together and same home, but they as

outsiders. No peace, No love, No affection and many problems.

There are many reasons to that. They are disbelief, not to respect,

mismatching the ideas of each. Etc.

According to above mentioned there are so many important

points that how spend the successful marriage life. Specially it

explain through the lord Buddha’s teaching. Further if husband and

wife have trust, respect, love, kindness, matching ideasof each,

every couple can spend best family life.

Writing by: sachethana marasinghe